(Start with "Monday" if you can. Anger is like a good friendship: It builds over time.) So what were we talking about? Oh right. My friend who believes that anger is a great motivator. I'm sure, even as we speak, she's somewhere motivating herself into a fit. Maybe one day all of her hard work will pay off, and she will have motivated herself into a stroke.
There are many things to anger you when you're going through infertiity. Big ones for me: Misinformation and Missing Information.
Like many people who ride the IUI/IVF well, it's not a wave...let's call it a cyclone on a good month and a tsunami on a bad one- I was told that my pregnancy test was a "low positive". I was like:
"What the hell is a low-positive? A pregnancy test with self-esteem issues?"
My hormone level was a six. Apparently if I had truly been pregnant it would have been around fifty.
The next time I went in, the nurse came running into the waiting room: "Good news. Your numbers are going up!"
Turns out they had gone all the way up to eleven. So, that was good news? It meant, as the doctor explained twenty emotional whirlwind minutes later, that this was not a viable pregnancy and we'd have to begin again from square one.
So, clearly, a "low-positive" was a "high negative" with some good PR people.
I felt like saying to the nurse on the way out: "I have good news for you! You have a job! Even though you're an idiot!"
Missing information can also be anger-producing: Stuff that nobody bothered to mention.
Before my egg retrieval, I felt like I was getting a fever. Nobody told me that an elevated temperature before an egg retrieval was normal.
All I could think of was all of the money, emotions, and physical and mental energy that had been invested in my impending procedure. And now, because I maybe had the flu, it was all going to be canceled? Not over my dead from hyperpyrexia body! (SAT word!)
So here I am, the night before, trying to figure out ways to fake out a thermometer.
"I'll think cold thoughts. I'll picture myself in the tundra like I'm doing a York peppermint patty commercial. I'll think about 'Frosty the Snowman' at least until he gets to the greenhouse and becomes 'Frosty the Puddle'. I'll think of the movie 'Fargo' . I'll suck on ice before they take my temperature."
I felt like the low-lifes who spend half of their lives commiting crimes and the other half plotting to psych-out lie detector tests.
If only someone medical had mentioned that I could expect to have a temperature before the egg retrieval.
My husband knows a guy who applied for a job and then set out to out-wit their mandatory drug urine test.
He drank some stuff that was guaranteed to remove all traces of certain drugs. He didn't get the job. He was perplexed. Apparently it also erased all traces of urine.
Listen I gotta go. I've got to figure out what to wear to Chelsea Clinton's wedding next weekend. What do you mean? You're joking, right?
I'll talk with ya tomorrow.