This week, I wanted to give you an excerpt of my new book that’s just out (currently in eBook). It’s all about what it’s REALLY like to get pregnant with, stay pregnant with, give birth to, and take care of more than one baby day after day. Even though the book is a sequel of sorts to my infertility book, this first chapter is all about my infertility experience so readers would be up-to-speed and fully appreciate how I got myself into this whole “multiple babies” situation in the first place. In fact, as you can see, that’s what I called the first chapter. Hope you buy it! (I mean “like” it. Did I say “buy” it? Wow. That was awkward.)
Laughing IS Conceivable No Matter How Many You’re Carrying: Insanity in its Infancy
Chapter One: Getting Pregnant with More than One Baby aka How I Got Myself Into This
Even if you haven’t read my first book, Laughing IS Conceivable: One Woman’s Extremely Funny Peek into the Extremely Unfunny World of Infertility, you just read my summary-length title which I’m thinking is enough of a hint as to how I got myself into this whole “multiple babies” situation. And this is how I got myself into the situation that got me into that situation.
A. Waiting for Mr. Right... and Waiting... and Waiting... So what’s the holdup? Is he stuck in traffic or what?
My wedding, actually the engagement, actually the actual dating is when the lunacy began. If my husband-to-be and I had been younger, that common remark: “Let’s get married and start a family” might have been a two-part undertaking. We’ll get married and then, at some later date, down the road apiece, over yonder, start a family like a normal couple. But since we were both in our extremely late thirties when we met and neither of us had ever been married or had kids, we went from speed dating to speed mating. It was about as romantic as it sounds.
“Hi I’m Lori.”
“Hi I’m Lloyd.”
“Our names sound cute together and you smell nice. We should get married. If you don’t mind me asking: How old are you?”
“I’ll be thirty-nine in two months.”
“I’ll be thirty-nine in two months!”
“Wow, that’s another cute thing to tell our kids!”
“Do you want kids?”
“Congratulations! I now pronounce you husband and wife.”
“Speaking of kids...uh oh look at the time on my biological clock... Half past thirty-nine. We’d better go. The rest of you can stay. The band is booked for another hour.”
After having waited so long to find the right person, I would have liked to have been a fiancee for more than twenty minutes. The only problem is that when you’re older, so tend to be everyone and everything around you. Families, both the ones we already had and the one we hoped to create, played a large part in the decision to set our plans on warp speed. Had we waited even another year or two to get married, who knows how many elderly relatives-- or potential children-- we would have had left? We weighed the pros and cons of waiting.
“On the negative side, we might not have some of our family at the wedding. On the positive side, we might not have some…of... Hmm. It sure would un-complicate the seating chart. And we could probably save a few bucks by lopping a tier off the cake.”
But waiting was too much of a crapshoot. Who really knew how many good eggs I had left or how long our relatives would linger?
Our plan was simple: We were going to get married and start a family all in the same day. After all, everyone gets pregnant on their wedding night, right?
Boy was I going to be productive that day. I was going to dance with all four of my new sisters-in-law and create their future niece or nephew all in a three hour span. Following the reception and conception, Lloyd and I would celebrate in the bridal suite / baby moon Jacuzzi (after I cleared it with my OB/GYN, of course) from which I would order everything non-alcoholic on the room service menu because, after all, I was eating for two, right? Maybe I could even speed up the pregnancy process and have a water birth since I would already be in the tub and check-out wasn’t until noon.
Well I didn’t get pregnant on my wedding night or the night after that or the night of our first anniversary.
A. Who Needs Medical Intervention When You Have Divine Intervention?
During our brief engagement, Lloyd and I met a monsignor at a barbecue who blessed us, finishing with:
“Usually when I bless couples they end up having twins.”
Wait, what? I don’t know much about Catholic prayers but isn’t “Amen” Latin for “The End”? What’s with this “Oh by the way” he just tossed in there? You’re allowed to add asterisks to prayers? My first thought was:
“Oh geez, how do you undo a blessing? Isn’t that like trying to squeeze eye drops out of your pupils?”
If I’d known then how excruciatingly complicated, exhausting, and expensive the next year of my life would be, I might have taken the monsignor’s generous no-hassle twin set offer more seriously instead of gambling on what was behind Door #3. That’s the last time I ever try to undo a blessing.
Thanks a lot for stopping by! Both of my books are available on Amazon.